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Whoops…Life Happened!

Its been a week or so since my last posting. And I know I have ‘messed up’ and ‘ruined’ my streak of posting twice a week. But I also know that life happens sometimes and even my best intentions have to take a backseat.

But here’s a secret – failing is the only way that we really learn. Clearly I was struggling to post twice a week (even though I ideally wanted to post even more than that!) because I have a difficult full-time job, I am committed to going to the gym for self-care, and I have a partner that needs attention too. So I’m going to practice a little bit of self-forgiveness and move on from this slip up instead of letting it completely discourage me from ever trying to blog again.

So here’s to messing up and trying again. I’ll be back with a quality post for my Spring Cleaning series on Sunday. I guess I had some spring cleaning of my own that needed to happen before I could really sit down and create content.

 

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Spring Cleaning: Planning pt 2

Back again with the next 4 domains in our journey to Spring Cleaning! As we discussed last time, the assessment that I used to assess what areas of life could be in need of some decluttering listed 7 domains of wellness. They are…physical wellness, social wellness, emotional wellness, environmental wellness, occupational wellness, spiritual wellness and intellectual wellness.

Putting effort into supporting each of these domains will help you to lead a balanced and happy life – for the most part! We all know that there are bumps in the road, but that’s a post for another time. Let’s get into the last 4 domains and some ideas about how you could support each of them.

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Spring Cleaning: Planning for Success

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Now that you’ve taken some time to reflect on what areas in your life are in need of some sprucing, its time to figure out the how. Today, let’s figure out a plan to increase the chances of success in your spring cleaning venture.

First, we have to figure out what activities will increase your satisfaction with a given domain. Below you’ll find a list of 3¬†domains along with some ideas of things to incorporate into your daily routine. This isn’t an exhaustive list, but rather meant to get the wheels turning. I’ll be posting the last¬†4 domains on Wednesday, April 5.
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Thank you’s – more important than you think

Before I started working with kids, I didn’t know the value of saying “thank you.”

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Sure, I had been conditioned to say please and thank you from the time I could first talk, but conditioning doesn’t necessarily make a person understand value. For me, it took the experience of not being thanked and of seeing others not being thanked that made me realize how important these two small words can be.

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Working with kids is hard. Working with kids who have attitudes and don’t follow rules and have trauma backgrounds and don’t get enough attention is even harder. I learned this quickly when I was working as an AmeriCorps volunteer in a special education classroom. There was a teacher, a paraprofessional and myself working in the class with 10 kids and it still got out of control sometimes. Despite all the effort and money she put in, I noticed that my teacher was rarely thanked for the hard work that she did. It seemed like, if anything, other teachers and administrators would look at her and our kids and make comments about us “disrupting” others classes.

During the two years that I worked in that school, I made it my mission to show teachers the appreciation that they deserved by hosting appreciation breakfasts and leaving notes or getting supplies for their classes. And it helped. Even if that moment only lasted for the day, the “thank you” lifted the teachers’ spirits.

On the other side of the coin, I noticed how much of a difference saying “thank you” made to students. Most of the day, students are told what to do and when to do it by every adult that lays eyes on them. And they are expected to do whatever it is – whether they like it or not.

But an amazing thing started to happen when I began thanking students for doing what had been asked of them. Although some said it didn’t make sense to thank students for things that they were expected to do, I found that recognizing students’ efforts and thanking them for it sometimes led to them being more productive or less difficult later on. Thanking students helped me build relationships with even the most difficult of kids – the students that made even the best teachers frustrated. Since my time in AmeriCorps, I have learned that saying thank you and speaking your appreciation out loud is a pretty powerful force.

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How I felt most of the day vs After I received a heartfelt thank you
Today, I received a thank you from a parent that I’m working with – and let me tell you, I needed it. I felt crappy all day and was getting a migraine when a parent called me. At the end of our conversation, she said “I just want to say thank you for always following up with me and checking in. A lot of other people don’t do that, so thank you.” It didn’t change the fact that I wasn’t feeling great or that my head was splitting in pain, but it did make me feel appreciated and happy. It was like a dose of sun on a dreary day.

With that, I thank you for taking the time to read a blog written by me, a person who you may or may not know. Because it really does bring a small sunny moment to my day.

Love,
Carolyn